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9 Signs of Stress in Women | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

9 Signs of Stress in Women

Blog, Stress /

Recently, I learned that research is showing women experience stress differently than men. This isn’t just about whether they experience more stress than men (though there’s some indication that might be true)…it’s about how they experience stress, how they show it, and how it affects their lives.  Today, I’m outlining 9 signs of stress we see in women in particular. And if you’re a man, it’s good for you to read so you can recognize stress in the women in your life and know when to support and when to just stay out of the way.  …know what I mean?

 

Plus, I put together a PDF outlining 258 signs of stress in men and women.  If you’re curious, I marked the ones I experience when I’m stressed (I’m kind of nosy and I like to know what other people experience, so I did it for you so you can be nosy, too 😉).  So make sure you grab that.

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2019.10.07 7 Things That Cause Maladaptive Perfectionism & Anxiety | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

7 Things That Cause Maladaptive Perfectionism & Anxiety

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism /

Recently, we’ve been talking about when setting high standards for ourselves gets out of hand and creates anxiety. It’s called maladaptive perfectionism when it crosses that line and starts creating more problems (i.e., anxiety) than it solves. We identified the signs we’ve crossed the line, we figured out what your standards are, and we determined whether your standards are healthy or unhealthy. Today, we’re taking a step back and talking about what causes us to get in this situation. I mean, let’s be honest, we all like knowing where to place the blame 😉. Grab the PDF at the end to work through it for yourself.

Next week, I’m demystifying signs of stress in women. Don’t miss it.

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11 Questions to Ask Yourself to Determine If Your Standards Are Creating Unnecessary Anxiety | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

11 Questions to Ask Yourself to Determine If Your Standards Are Healthy or Creating Unnecessary Anxiety

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism, Stress /

So we’ve talked about how the unhealthy, unrelenting standards you’ve set for yourself are keeping you stuck with anxiety. They make you feel overwhelmed, inadequate, and stressed out. And we also talked about the importance of having standards — we can’t just abandon them altogether! What we want to do is identify the standards that are helpful and keep those around and then also identify the ones that are creating anxiety and modify them to be more helpful. So last week we figured out what your standards are. And today, it’s time to figure out which standards are unhelpful and causing unnecessary anxiety. Check out my article today outlining 11 questions to ask yourself to determine if your personal standards have crossed the line and are creating unnecessary anxiety. And make sure you grab the free PDF for this post to put it into action!

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Your Standards Are Keeping You Stuck & Anxious | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

Your Standards Are Keeping You Stuck & Anxious

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism /

So the first thing we’ve gotta do to get into recovery is to figure out what your standards are for yourself.  Having standards is important. Even having high standards is important.  But when our standards are unhealthy they create problems.  So in today’s article, I’m walking you through how to determine what your standards are, complete with a PDF to help you start making it actionable.  Then next week, we’ll start figuring out if they’re healthy, so don’t miss it.  

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10 Signs of Maladaptive Perfectionism | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

10 Signs of Maladaptive Perfectionism

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism /

Hey, we all want to do great work, right?  I mean, why work hard unless whatever you produce is something you’re really proud of?  I’m definitely on board with that.  

 

The problem is that setting high standards for ourselves can get out of hand for some of us.  In today’s article, I outline 10 signs that you’ve crossed the line into a place where your high standards are no longer working for you.  Check it out here. And then I’ve got a PDF for you to practice changing those unhealthy high standards into healthier alternatives, so make sure you grab that, too, so you can make it actionable.

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3 Things a Midnight Break-In Taught Me About Anxiety | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

3 Things a Midnight Break-In Taught Me About Anxiety

Anxiety, Blog /

So my house got broken into.  While I was asleep and home alone.  As you can imagine, I was terrified, but I also learned some things about anxiety.  Now it’s my duty to share those lessons with you so you can learn from my experience and hopefully never have to go through it yourself.  Check out the article I posted today with the full story of the break-in and the three lessons I learned about anxiety. Also, I put together a PDF to help you outsmart your own brain when it’s stressed out, so make sure you grab that as well. 

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3 Things I'd Ask a Genie For| Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

The 3 Things I’d Wish For If I Had a Genie

Blog, Purpose & Meaning /

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could all just rub a lamp in a cave and magically discover a genie that’s gonna grant us three wishes?  I mean, if that’s not the life, I don’t know what is. Have you ever thought about what you’d wish for?  

 

I gave it some thought and came up with my three and wrote an article explaining the three and why they matter for you and your mental health.  And because I love a good worksheet, I put together a worksheet to help you develop your three wishes to inspire your future mental health goals.

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