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10 Questions to Ask Yourself to Stop Overthinking| Hayden Finch, PhD | Psychologist/Therapist | | Des Moines, Iowa | Little Rock, Arkansas

10 Questions to Ask Yourself to Stop Overthinking

Overthinking is a real issue for many of my clients.  They tell me that they think about the same issues, problems, fears, or worries far too much or for far too long, and they realize it creates unnecessary anxiety.  But they’re not sure how to stop it.  Today, I’ve got 10 questions to ask yourself to stop the overthinking.  

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10 Questions to Ask Yourself to Stop Overthinking| Hayden Finch, PhD | Psychologist/Therapist | | Des Moines, Iowa | Little Rock, Arkansas

10 Questions to Ask Yourself to Stop Overthinking

Overthinking is a real issue for many of my clients.  They tell me that they think about the same issues, problems, fears, or worries far too much or for far too long, and they realize it creates unnecessary anxiety.  But they’re not sure how to stop it.  Today, I’ve got 10 questions to ask yourself to stop the overthinking.  

 

In this week’s article, I’ll share with you 

  • 10 questions to ask yourself to stop overthinking
  • A free worksheet to help you put the questions into action and really take control of your overthinking
  • A complete example using the worksheet to work through one of the issues my clients overthink the most….see how to use the questions in action

 

Dive in here!

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15 Coping Mechanisms That Are Keeping You Stuck| Psychologist Dr. Hayden Finch

15 Coping Mechanisms That Are Keeping You Stuck

Hey, we’re all doing our absolute best to just get from day to day and from week to week.  And over the years, we develop coping mechanisms to help us do just that. Sure, not all of those coping mechanisms are healthy, and we know it.  Of course smoking and drinking and spending too much are helping us feel “better,” and we know they’re not actually fixing the problem. But today, we’re diving deep into 15 coping mechanisms that you might not even realize are keeping you stuck.  Have you adopted any of these habits?

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14 Ways to Get the Most Out of Your Therapy Sessions | Psychologist Dr. Hayden Finch

14 Ways to Get the Most Out of Your Therapy Sessions

So you’ve gone through all the steps of getting a therapist — it wasn’t easy, but you did it! Congratulations! Now you want to make sure you get the most out of your therapy sessions. In today’s post, I’ll tell you what to do before each therapy session, what to do during therapy sessions, what to do after therapy sessions, and what to do between your therapy sessions to make sure you’re squeezing every ounce of juice out of your therapy that you can. Plus, I put together a worksheet to help you organize it all and maximize your therapy sessions.

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18 Key Characteristics of the Conscientious but Critical Personality Type | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services

18 Key Characteristics of the Conscientious but Critical Personality Type

Have you heard of the enneagram?  It describes nine personality types that are more based in spirituality and anecdote than science, but they’re an interesting description of how we think about the world, the choices we tend to make, our personal values, how we interact with people, and how we respond to stress.  

 

A lot of the articles I write are geared toward folks who are enneagram type 1.  In part, this is because enneagram 1s tend to think nothing is ever quite good enough so they’re always on a personal improvement quest.  They love a good self-help book and are addicted to researching how to do things. In my article today, I’m sharing with you the core characteristics of type 1s — from their strengths and weaknesses to their core fears and desires.  See if you relate here.  

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How to Overcome Anxiety & Depression with More Useful Questions | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services

How to Overcome Anxiety & Depression with More Useful Questions

As a full-time therapist, I hear a lot of people’s most intimate thoughts, and I’ve noticed people are asking themselves a lot of questions….a lot of unhelpful questions that are keeping them stuck.  In today’s article, I’ll show you how to turn unhelpful questions (like Why can’t I get this right?) into more productive, useful questions to get you unstuck from anxiety and depression.  Discover how to do it here.

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A Message for When You're Feeling Like a Total Failure | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services

A Message for When You’re Feeling Like a Total Failure

Who doesn’t want to be more perfect? To dress nicer, look nicer, be nicer? We worry that our imperfections will not only hold us back from living the lives we want, but we also worry our flaws will negatively impact the people around us…the people we love most. If this is you and you feel like you’ve just dropped all the balls or can’t keep any of the plates spinning, I’ve got a question you need to ask yourself. See the question here.

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Shonda Rhimes Has the Secret to Doing It All | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD | Paradocs Psychological Services

Shonda Rhimes Has the Secret to Doing It All

Did you know that I’m slightly obsessed with Scandal? Sure, it’s off the air, but I still watch it on repeat. The creator of Scandal, Shonda Rhimes, gave the graduation speech at Dartmouth a few years ago, and her speech was so epic it’s still quoted. In it, she tells you the secret to keeping it all balanced. This is a woman who has a super demanding job (she writes and produces three major television shows) and has a family. And she’s got the secret. It’s not what you’d think.  I’ll share it with you here.

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