Anxiety

How to Overcome Anxiety & Depression with More Useful Questions

Anxiety, Blog, Depression, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism / Hayden Finch, PhD

As a full-time therapist, I hear a lot of people’s most intimate thoughts, and I’ve noticed people are asking themselves a lot of questions….a lot of unhelpful questions that are keeping them stuck. In today’s article, I’ll show you how to turn unhelpful questions (like Why can’t I get this right?) into more productive, useful questions to get you unstuck from anxiety and depression. Discover how to do it here.

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The Brain Science Behind Why You Keep Repeating Behaviors That Make You Stressed

Anxiety, Solving Recurrent Problems, Stress / Hayden Finch, PhD

Last week, we talked about how using an emotional compass that’s pointed toward misery makes us reactive instead of proactive and ultimately makes us miserable. That misery compass is part of what makes us repeat the same old patterns that make us anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed. As long as we’re not miserable, we just keep doing what we’ve always done.

But there’s another factor that makes us repeat the same old unhelfpul, unhealthy patterns we’ve always used — think: wine, snoozing, and Instagram. It’s an old factor that’s been hardwired into the human brain for thousands of years. This factor makes us keep doing things we know lead us right back where we started.

In this week’s article, I share with you the psychology behind it.

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So You’re Burning Out. 7 Ways to Fix It Now.

Blog, Burnout, Stress / Hayden Finch, PhD

Recently, we’ve been chatting about lifestyle burnout, which is a term I invented to describe the emotional exhaustion we feel with these overscheduled, ultra-competitive lifestyles we’ve developed. I shared with you signs you might be experiencing lifestyle burnout and told you three things I do to avoid lifestyle burnout personally. This week, 7 ways you can start fixing burnout now. Because burnout is different from stress, it’s not as simple as just managing stress well.

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44 Signs You’re Experiencing Lifestyle Burnout

Blog, Burnout, Stress / Hayden Finch, PhD

Last week, I described to you a concept I invented called “lifestyle burnout.” It’s similar to the burnout we hear about when it comes to work…except it’s much broader….which makes it more debilitating. We’re overwhelmed and burnt out, not just on work but on our entire, relentless lives.

Today, I’m bringing you 44 signs you are experiencing lifestyle burnout so you’ll know if this applies to you and you oughta keep paying attention to my articles coming up.

I also put together a PDF chart to show you the difference between stress and burnout, so make sure you grab that while you’re reading the article.

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Workplace Burnout Is Becoming Lifestyle Burnout

Blog, Burnout, Stress / Hayden Finch, PhD

To celebrate Self Improvement Month (which was last month, by the way…kinda missed it 😬), I wrote a few posts on burnout because I’ve been noticing my clients really struggling with burnout, and it’s been a focus of their self-improvement projects.

To start, I wrote an article about how workplace burnout is oozing into my clients’ entire lives and creating a phenomenon I’m calling “lifestyle burnout.”

Check it out to discover more about what “lifestyle burnout” is.

Then grab the PDF to figure out what might be contributing to your lifestyle burnout and to get a link to a test that shows your susceptibility to a stress-induced health breakdown.

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9 Signs of Stress in Women

Blog, Stress / Hayden Finch, PhD

Recently, I learned that research is showing women experience stress differently than men. This isn’t just about whether they experience more stress than men (though there’s some indication that might be true)…it’s about how they experience stress, how they show it, and how it affects their lives. Today, I’m outlining 9 signs of stress we see in women in particular. And if you’re a man, it’s good for you to read so you can recognize stress in the women in your life and know when to support and when to just stay out of the way. …know what I mean?

Plus, I put together a PDF outlining 258 signs of stress in men and women. If you’re curious, I marked the ones I experience when I’m stressed (I’m kind of nosy and I like to know what other people experience, so I did it for you so you can be nosy, too 😉). So make sure you grab that.

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7 Things That Cause Maladaptive Perfectionism & Anxiety

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism / Hayden Finch, PhD

Recently, we’ve been talking about when setting high standards for ourselves gets out of hand and creates anxiety. It’s called maladaptive perfectionism when it crosses that line and starts creating more problems (i.e., anxiety) than it solves. We identified the signs we’ve crossed the line, we figured out what your standards are, and we determined whether your standards are healthy or unhealthy. Today, we’re taking a step back and talking about what causes us to get in this situation. I mean, let’s be honest, we all like knowing where to place the blame 😉. Grab the PDF at the end to work through it for yourself.

Next week, I’m demystifying signs of stress in women. Don’t miss it.

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11 Questions to Ask Yourself to Determine If Your Standards Are Creating Unnecessary Anxiety | Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

11 Questions to Ask Yourself to Determine If Your Standards Are Healthy or Creating Unnecessary Anxiety

Anxiety, Blog, Self-Criticism & Perfectionism, Stress / Hayden Finch, PhD

So we’ve talked about how the unhealthy, unrelenting standards you’ve set for yourself are keeping you stuck with anxiety. They make you feel overwhelmed, inadequate, and stressed out. And we also talked about the importance of having standards — we can’t just abandon them altogether! What we want to do is identify the standards that are helpful and keep those around and then also identify the ones that are creating anxiety and modify them to be more helpful. So last week we figured out what your standards are. And today, it’s time to figure out which standards are unhelpful and causing unnecessary anxiety. Check out my article today outlining 11 questions to ask yourself to determine if your personal standards have crossed the line and are creating unnecessary anxiety. And make sure you grab the free PDF for this post to put it into action!

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3 Things a Midnight Break-In Taught Me About Anxiety

Anxiety, Blog / Hayden Finch, PhD

So my house got broken into. While I was asleep and home alone. As you can imagine, I was terrified, but I also learned some things about anxiety. Now it’s my duty to share those lessons with you so you can learn from my experience and hopefully never have to go through it yourself. Check out the article I posted today with the full story of the break-in and the three lessons I learned about anxiety. Also, I put together a PDF to help you outsmart your own brain when it’s stressed out, so make sure you grab that as well.

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3 Things I'd Ask a Genie For| Paradocs Psychological Services | Hayden Finch, PhD

The 3 Things I’d Wish For If I Had a Genie

Blog, Purpose & Meaning / Hayden Finch, PhD

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could all just rub a lamp in a cave and magically discover a genie that’s gonna grant us three wishes? I mean, if that’s not the life, I don’t know what is. Have you ever thought about what you’d wish for?

I gave it some thought and came up with my three and wrote an article explaining the three and why they matter for you and your mental health. And because I love a good worksheet, I put together a worksheet to help you develop your three wishes to inspire your future mental health goals.

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How to Overcome Anxiety & Depression with More Useful Questions

The Brain Science Behind Why You Keep Repeating Behaviors That Make You Stressed

So You’re Burning Out. 7 Ways to Fix It Now.

44 Signs You’re Experiencing Lifestyle Burnout

Workplace Burnout Is Becoming Lifestyle Burnout

9 Signs of Stress in Women

7 Things That Cause Maladaptive Perfectionism & Anxiety

11 Questions to Ask Yourself to Determine If Your Standards Are Healthy or Creating Unnecessary Anxiety

3 Things a Midnight Break-In Taught Me About Anxiety

The 3 Things I’d Wish For If I Had a Genie

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